Yesterday we celebrated Father’s Day. Honoring those who have serve as Father figures for so many of us. This holiday can come with mixed emotions. Not everyone has a good relationship with their Father, which can make it difficult to trust other men. On the other hand, there are some men who go above and beyond the call of duty to care for, encourage and cheer their kids on. My husband is one of the good guys. He encourages me to do everything necessary to make this business of ours a success. He serves our family with such heart and I am incredibly thankful. So, shout out Chris Barber for crushing it as a dad!
When it comes to the life of an entrepreneur, I believe you need to have a solid foundation of wise people willing to guide you. Whether it’s a business partner, coach or wise friend, it’s crucial to your business that you are not always the smartest person in the room. You need to seek guidance if you’re going to grow.
I chose to surround myself with three incredibly intelligent men. Most people invest in one coach, but I don’t do things half-way, so I have three! Each with distinct differences and operating in their full capacities as friends, coaches, and mentors. I like to think of them as the father figures who have paved the way for many of us to work in this digital space. Allow me to introduce you.
Meet Ray Edwards.
Ray is the spiritual father that I never had growing up.
He’s not quite old enough to actually be my father, but he’s got an adult child, so it works. Ray doesn’t know this, but he’s the man whose Facebook page I go to when I just don’t know where to turn. Because there is ALWAYS some spiritual wisdom shared that somehow becomes the light on the dark path I am generally traveling on. Whether it’s well-timed scripture that speaks to my soul, or a simple question of “why” when we’re in person tackling a problem in my life or business, Ray always seems to have the right words to either set me straight or let me know it’s all going to be okay.
I read a quote once that said “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” – And that’s Ray in a nutshell. Those often annoying awkward silences Ray is famous for, are just the thing I need sometimes to figure out my next step.
Next up is Todd Herman.
Todd is pretty much my age. So to say I look at him as a father figure may be an insult to him, but he’s tough, and can take it. I met Todd two years ago, and instantly resonated with his style. He’ll curse when appropriate and dish out truth because he lives it out, daily. It’s hard to explain what his friendship has meant to me over the years, because it’s not like we talk all the time. But when we do, I always walk away with a nugget of wisdom that will linger for days, weeks or months. It’s as if he knows I need time to let things marinate, and has the perfect mix of tough love and sensitivity. One time, he told me when I was stuck in my head: “Trivinia, what’s the worst that can happen? You lose all your clients, and you have to find your own. You can. You know your shit, and I promise you, your friends and family, are not going to let you starve. It’ll be okay.” – Intellectually I knew that, but having Todd verbalize it, assured me that I could take risks and that I’d be alright. That’s what good dads do. They encourage, equip and then let their children go off and create. Todd’s allowed me to do that in my life, and it’s 180 degrees different as a result. I’m forever indebted to his fatherly influence.
Last, but not least is Dan Martell.
Ever want a dad to go on an adventure with you? Not because you need a buddy, but because there is some sense of security that comes along with know that Dad is nearby? He’ll make sure you don’t fall off the bike (or pick you up when you do), he’ll be there to catch you at the end of the slide, and he’ll go ahead and encourage you to steal home plate when you’re just not sure you can. Dan Martell is that type of fatherly influence for me. He’s younger than me, actually, but Dan is the type of father that first encourages his children to try when they have questions or are stuck on a problem. He doesn’t give the answers to make life easy for them, he encourages them to think, to problem solve and to dig in and do the hard stuff. Dan’s the guy that calls me on a Friday night and encourages me to launch a program the following day. He’s the one that encourages me to fly because he believes I can. Even when I don’t. I’m in a mastermind with Dan, and his “job” is to protect my confidence and help me get out of my own way. Doesn’t that sound like a darn good father to you? He doesn’t know it, but he’s one of the best fathers I’ve ever seen to his actual children, and all the adult children he’s shepherding into their own excellence through his courses and programs.
Whether you’ve been in business for decades or just starting out, I highly recommend finding those people who will make you better. For me, it’s Ray, Todd, and Dan. Maybe they’ll be your people. Perhaps you’ll find someone that speaks your language and just gets you.
Happy (belated) Father’s Day to the men who make us better! We thank you!