How To Host A Successful Live Mastermind

Last month, my team and I traveled to San Diego to attend the 90 Day Year Live event. I love to travel and attend conferences, but it’s even more fun when I can bring my team with me. I’d call it an entourage, but I’m not a diva! 😉

Back in December of 2016, I was an affiliate for Todd Herman’s program, The 90 Day Year. I’ve followed Todd’s teaching for quite a while now and I am constantly sharing with other entrepreneurs about his program. As an affiliate, I not only get to spread the word about Todd, but I also get to add my own flair by sharing extra bonuses with anyone that purchase 90 Day Year through my affiliate link.

One of the bonuses my team and I wanted to do was offer a 1-day Mastermind to anyone that purchased through my affiliate link. I’ve attended many a mastermind events over the years, but never have I ever (sounds like a game, now!) hosted a mastermind on my own.

With the help of my team, I think we pulled off an excellent event. We had a lovely small group of people that were able to attend the live event in San Diego and I was able to spend several hours pouring into other entrepreneurs.

Running a mastermind like this doesn’t have to be complicated. You just need a few basics.

First, you need a location. 

We chose True Food in San Diego. They offered us a beautiful private room with excellent food, service, and privacy we needed. If you host a mastermind, this may seem like a low priority, but when you have the ability to move around the room, talk in a normal voice, no whispering or shouting required, and can feed people well, you’ll have a much better experience.

 

Second, give them a gift.

We opted for Moleskine notebooks with our PVA logo.

I’m IN LOVE with them and can we just take a minute to talk about personalized tissue paper?

It’s worth the investment because it’s beautiful and stays on brand, which is something I’m an advocate for!

 

 

Third, give people the opportunity to talk.

I stewed over what kind of deep, intellectual nuggets of wisdom I could impart on the attendees and then I realized… they don’t need to walk away with another tweetable quote, they just need to talk about their business. We gave each attendee a time in the hot seat. Each person had thirty minutes to talk about their pain points. What were they expecting from the live event the following day and how to execute the goals they made.

Each attendee was able to speak into the businesses of others, sharing an outsider’s perspective and walk away with more than a goal, but a strategy of execution.

Listen to what Daniel Fava had to say.

“The mastermind event was the perfect way to start my first 90 Day Year Live experience. I can honestly say that Trivinia and her team know my business and care about my success. Our time together was not just a one-off, feel-good and go meeting. I left the mastermind feeling more confident, courageous and supported in my business than ever before. For me, there were a couple of aha moments, where the group helped me to realize some of the ways in which I tend to hide within my business. I feel challenged to push past those limiting beliefs and serve my audience in a new, sincere and focused way. Seeing the way that Trivinia and her team care for the people they serve is truly inspiring and I’m forever grateful for the time and encouragement that they have shown me, not just at the mastermind event, but in all the months leading up to it.”

My friend and fellow 90 Day Year Alum, Sonja, said this,

“I attended the live mastermind with Trivinia at True Food before the 90 day year live event.

Heading into the event I was feeling pretty good about my business but stuck in a few key areas, mostly a funnel that wasn’t working so great and overwhelm with my business and my personal life. I was looking forward to Trivinia’s insights.

The event was amazing. It was a stress free, fun atmosphere that actually felt extremely indulgent, almost pampered in a way. Trivinia always makes sure her clients are well attended to and I was instantly comfortable at the event. The food was amazing.

I ended up learning so much from the other people there, both about what I was doing right and what I needed to work on. The talk that Trivinia gave reminded me of some areas within my business that needed some work, but she also helped me think “simple, not complex.” I was extremely lucky that my VA was there with me, so we could “make eyes” at each other and nod when a good tip was shared. The hot seats were helpful for the people in them, but even more so for us who were giving suggestions. Thinking through someone else’s problems helps you define your own. I walked away with more motivation than I walked in with, and action items that I was able to implement very quickly. This is a do not miss event!”

Lastly, Social Media expert and fellow 90 Day Year attendee had this to say,

“The Live Mastermind Experience with Trivinia gave me an opportunity to get to hear about other struggles fellow entrepreneurs were having in their growing and scaling process in their business, but it allowed me to see Trivinia in ‘action’.  She’s so helpful and always willing to start a conversation to help you think about your business goals from a different direction to make sure you are focusing on the right things to help you get where you want.  The food was delish, like really…..and the people? Oh, loved getting to know them so much! Trivinia’s live mastermind experience was definitely a 5 star experience for me!”

There is nothing I love more than coaching other entrepreneurs! I had no idea that it would become a calling of mine until Todd gave me several opportunities to share my business with others in new ways.

Walking away from our live mastermind that Monday, I was on an emotional high! Early that morning, I was nervous. How would people respond? Would I really be able to speak into the lives and business of others?

Little did I know, it would be one of the highlights from the live event. I’m already planning my next live mastermind because I immediately saw the value that it gave other entrepreneurs.

An afternoon well spent!

Taking Off The Mask

Last week, I spent several days in Sunny San Diego! I was there to attend SMMW 2016 hosted by Social Media Examiner.

It was such a great time to get away, learn new tricks of the trade for my business and meet up with some amazing people.
There are days when I have to pinch myself when I see who I get to rub shoulders with. There was one morning in particular when I was invited, yes, INVITED, to a Mastermind breakfast. I was a surreal moment to get the invitation by my friends Kary and Brian walk into a room full of super stars! Check out this picture. Super Stars FOR REAL!

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As I sat in the room with people that I have worked with and admired, I couldn’t believe that I was there. Then something strange happened… I began to take off the mask.

You know the mask that I’m talking about. The one that we all wear to hide our vulnerability.

As we sat around a table having breakfast and talking business, I began to share my experience of realizing that I couldn’t manage my business by myself.

Imagine that, a VA needing a VA!
I told all of these wonderful people how I had reached a point in my life where I couldn’t juggle it all. I couldn’t believe what was coming out of my mouth. I’m very good at pointing out where other people need help, but when it came to myself, I wanted everyone to think that I had super powers! We all do it, especially us that are naturally competitive.

Play cards with me… I’ll wipe the floor with you!

See, there I go again…. talking big talk…. now back to my truly epic morning!

I discovered something that day. I wasn’t alone.

As I began to make myself vulnerable, others around me began to share their struggles, too.

If I could share one piece of advice with you, it would be to take off the mask. We like to save face and think that we can handle all of the pressure alone and then we will be held in high esteem. That isn’t the case. We are held in high esteem when we are honest with the people around us, specifically our tribe.

Do you have a networking group that you’re a part of? Perhaps you’ve played with the idea of joining a mastermind. Don’t hesitate another minute. Once you’ve joined that tribe, might I challenge you to be authentic with them. Don’t hide your fears, your flaws and your needs. You’ll be amazed at the support (and respect) that comes when you are transparent with your tribe.

Tell me… how do you remain authentic in a world of masks?

Confidence Waning?

Confidence Waning? Meet Rachel.

Growing up, my mom used to tell people when I’d be looking in the mirror analyzing my crooked nose “She’s not conceited, she’s convinced”. Little did she know I was tearing my appearance apart. That “confidence” was actually self doubt, but no one knew it. Mom didn’t know any better, only that I sat perched on our bathroom counter endlessly staring and smiling and turning my head one way or another.

I’m pretty lucky that I can put on an alter ego like nobody’s business and be “on” when I need to. It’s a learned skill, perfected over time when I had to fill a role bigger than I was.

It’s not always the healthiest choice, but it’s served me well many times.

Authentic confidence appeared something others were born with, that I had to fake my way through. Whether it be a job interview, or a first date –  I never felt quite authentic about who I was. As an adult, I straddled the fence between cursing entrepreneur and conservative christian. Sometimes, it felt as though I didn’t fit.

Second guessing each decision –  whether what to wear after trying on outfit #42 or if I should put on the red lipstick or the mauve. I didn’t want to feel like a fraud, and honestly, I thought I was in most situations.
So, how does a scared little “grown up” girl afraid that no one will like her build a wildly successful business in just a few years when I had the confidence of a peanut? I’ll share with you the three mindset shifts I have to continuously revisit to move from terrified to triumphant in a second…

But first, a story. I was invited to speak at an event in Vegas, last minute – and when you’re asked to speak on stage in Vegas, you don’t ever say no. Unless it conflicts with values people, then run! Thankfully, this did not.

Alas, I said “sure”  and proceeded to have the biggest case of anxiety known to man. “Go Confidently in the direction of your dreams” had nothing on me. I was headed straight for the donuts, instead. I didn’t know what to wear, what to say, how to act. I had fear for how people were going to receive me alongside the likes of Dan Martell, Melanie Duncan and even the founder of Ugg Boots. These were big time players and I was about to walk into a playground much more sophisticated than I thought I was. I was struggling to find any ounce of authentic confidence in me. Alter ego tools weren’t working and there wasn’t a mirror in sight that could convince me that everyone wasn’t staring at me calling me an overweight fraud.

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Enter… Rachel Luna. A fire cracker, Puerto Rican born Marine with enough confidence to fill the entire Pacific Ocean.

A woman who requires no validation, Rachel reminded me of three things you need to know when your confidence as an entrepreneur is waning…

  1. There are liars living in your head. That’s right. You may not have invited them in, but girl, they are there, and if you’re ever going to get this [enter your dream here] to take flight, you have to kick those liars out.
  2. There is not a scenario in this world that you can’t navigate. Will you stumble? Yes. Will you survive? Yes. Should you let your baby ego get bruised? Nope. Carry on, Soldier.
  3. Marketing and shiny messaging don’t make you a better you. YOU need to become a better you, and that starts with figuring out what the exact next steps you need to take are, to grow a business and a life you actually believe in. No fraud necessary.

So, I walked that room and proclaimed it as my own. I prayed silently that God would show up and calm my rapidly beating heart so I didn’t drop dead on the walk up to the stage. I chose that I would embrace this opportunity and not take the easy way out. I was facing fears, confidently. And it felt real. I couldn’t have got there without Rachel that day.

So….what happened during my talk? Oh, the worst things ever…

Wardrobe malfunctions. Broken Microphones, buzzing speakers, and nerves for days. Did I survive? Yes. Will I ever speak on stage again? Heck yes.

I learned that I do fit in. That the lies in our heads are bigger only there, in our minds. Not in reality. I embraced that I do have a place in this space and that I can “do you” with more confidence than I ever imagined when armed with the right tools. Rachel thankfully showed up at the right time to remind me.

Rachel teaches all about confidence in her course Confident Entrepreneur Academy and it’s a brilliant program. I’m re-working through the modules, getting my head on straight and leaning into who I was made to be, instead of fighting the desire to be someone else.
And you can, too. To learn more about Rachel and her program, click here. No Affiliate Links necessary. Check it out, and join me to becoming a CONFIDENT Entrepreneur ready to take on your world. Crooked nose, red lipstick, and all.